Expectations of behavior begin very early for most people. There are several impractical applications of behavior modification that are taught to us in our youth. Unfortunately, because these expectations begin during our youth and are often not understood as justified or justifiable later, a chaotic cycle can continue that impedes our abilities and our relationships.
Once someone sees their personal journey as more futile and the steps they make rarely if ever reach identifiable intermediate goals that lead to something more rewarding as well as more challenging, this chaos and discouragement can create apathy that then leads to depression.
When parents and/or authority figures tell a young person something such as, "Do it because I say so." or "Do as I say, not as I do." that may serve as an intermediate and very necessary delay to an explanation but that delay must be limited.
One parent, a team of parents, or even a team of authority figures, can't answer all of a child's questions nor should they give the mistaken impression that all questions have answers or need them. However, without a reasonable structure (which may need to be more individual and tailored for diverse thinkers with diverse patterns) and some understanding that progress is being made, people will begin to lose their sense of individuality and purpose.
Developmental delays or impairments can and do allow for and even encourage a lack of empathy and responsibility among those who encounter these people with alternative development when those who encounter them have strict and more mainstream goals for themselves along with these types of goals which they project onto others. These types of goals are especially less appropriate for these people in their lives with developmental delays, impairments, or differences.
Too often this population's pattern of learning which may seem to comply with repetitive and structured training and schools of thought, is accompanied by a vulnerability (and even an exaggerated willingness to trust and to please others) which displays to those who are less empathic and misguided, an invitation to inappropriately train them with needless social grooming done in harsh and insensitive ways.
Mile markers and goal post don't need to continually be ignored for the expediency that comforts others if an alternative and more appropriate path can be recognized and encouraged. Once people who develop more slowly or differently can recognize how to achieve intermediate goals that help to identify and build on larger achievable goals, their better self-esteem will allow them to better recognize their inherent worth and how societies prejudices cannot and ultimately will not define them.