It would be nice if personal aspirations were not bound by social standards and that people would not limit their view of their own ability by any temporary market-driven set of values. Unfortunately, I think these limitations are too prevalent and cause a lot of problems.
Not only does it create discourse among people with disabilities and among minorities who are marginalized but the effects this has on one person's self-esteem has a terrible rippling effect on all of society.
Certainly, the beliefs someone grows up with about their limitations contribute to much of what they don't learn during that time. This is then an ugly cycle due to what others believe about them that affects their personal beliefs and vice versa. The unreasonable demands made of someone often constantly reminds them that they need to function at a level that may be above their capability to be included among the high achievers, or they are instead asked to accept the shame, pity, and condescending manipulation from being seen as incapable.
Not adapting to these neatly formed unattainable or otherwise minimalist boxes often add to the aspects of someone's personality which is sometimes then instead categorized as terminally unique based on their defiance to standard guidelines.
The ability to do a particular thing or not be able to do it should never be followed with the word *but*.
I am constantly reminded that capability means very little without categorization.
A skill is only as valuable in the way it is used in the service of others. There is no need to prevent or dissuade the vast number of capabilities that can be encouraged or creatively designed due to what is considered a Democratic of free-market.
Cookie cutter industry giants like Henry Ford and Ray Kroc have designed much of our all-or-nothing social values with employment and production programs that decide our worth based on what are considered all-inclusive programs. Such inclusion discourages individuality and employs fewer people with unique skills. Those excluded people are often more creative and stronger as the result of adapting to being excluded.
I think that before we can really discuss how to reduce unmanageable behaviors with all-inclusive behavioral programs such as the topic of discussion ABFH began with this post (she's great at encouraging discussion) it's important to look at what aspects of behavior which are challenging is due to a lack of imagination from society molders in leadership positions.
When addressing how the status level we are seen to function affects our view of society (which was discussed here on Joseph's recent post), it's important to also look at what types of limitations are important for maintaining our assigned role which may be too strictly defined.